Rachael Stott » Life

On equanimity

Rae — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 02:49:59 +0000

What do you find attractive in a mate? What do you look for in a friend? What quality makes you feel most loved and secure? Most of us don’t really know. Those of us that do have a ‘feeling’. We call that feeling Love. But we are wrong. Love is important but as some of us know; [...]

Margin for error

Rae — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 22:57:25 +0000

My son can be described as sweet, compassionate, excitable, intelligent, short, unreasonably strong for his size (just ask my Nanna), musical, extroverted, intuitive… and a million other words. But I will spare you the proud Mum ramblings. The single word that possibly describes my baby best is ‘staunch’. Firm and steadfast; true. See Synonyms at [...]

7 things I CAN’T live without

Rae — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 23:14:02 +0000

The Universe has a sick sense of humour. Over the past 5 years I have come to depend on food. I have always loved eating. (I’m a Taurean – sue me!) But it was my Stepford wife transformation when I moved in with my husband that inspired me to learn how to cook. Cooking, ah I [...]

More certain, not more prepared

Rae — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 22:00:00 +0000

I was a super prepared mum-to-be. Borderline obsessive. My midwife commented a number of times during my labour that I was simply ‘too composed’ for a first time Mum. My birth was so tranquil that no one knew when I had hit transition. I had done my homework and yet there were a million things [...]

4 types of tears

Rae — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 07:02:36 +0000

I have heard of 4 seasons in one day. I have experienced 4 moods in a day. Who am I kidding – I have had 4 moods in an hour. Today was a first. Today I had 4 types of tears in a day; Angry tears We all know these tears. They come at the [...]

Big Scary Adult Stuff

Rae — Tue, 14 Sep 2010 22:01:47 +0000

I clearly remember coining that phrase when I was 20. Big. Scary. Adult stuff. I was faced with the prospect of letting myself truly love for the first time, and I was shitting myself. There was definitely something between us – but nothing like I had felt for boyfriends before. We danced around it. We let it [...]

Preparation

Rae — Sun, 12 Sep 2010 22:00:54 +0000

The universe has a beautiful way of preparing me for what comes next. An art so beautiful, organic and simple that I miss the clues if I am not paying enough attention. I have a good idea of what is coming next. I have been pregnant before. I can expect in the next 6 months [...]

Lemon Tea for the Soul

Rae — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 22:13:00 +0000

Ignore the part of you that needs nurturing and you will grind to a halt. Listening is hard, harder than it needs to be. There is so much white noise in our lives, it takes effort to hear through the static. If we don't listen carefully, intentionally, regularly the message gets louder. Louder; more painful, more urgent, more frantic. The dial is turned up. And up. And up. Until we act. Until the message us undeniable (and your options are few).

Competing for my heart

Rae — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 22:00:18 +0000

I am a bit of a foodie. I have been accused of channeling Martha Stewart more than once. On one famous occasion I had a complex concussion (knocked myself out cold on the kitchen tiles) and stupidly decided I needed to bake an apple pie from scratch in the 30 minutes before my guests would [...]

Cravings

Rae — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 22:00:21 +0000

Before I was pregnant I had cravings. The normal cravings every woman (and some blokes) get. Ice cream, chocolate, Japanese food, pizza. Usually after a bad day, a blood sugar low or a hormone spike/crash. Often these cravings were a thinly veiled justification to eat something sugary or fatty. These are not cravings. These are little mental [...]

Special permission

Rae — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 22:00:54 +0000

I often get warned that a lot of the angst I experience is because I expect too much of people. There is a largely unspoken societal rule that says ‘Don’t expect a lot from others.’ I have seen blog posts dedicated to this exact topic. How much should we expect from friends? How much should [...]

Mum Fail, Again

Rae — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 22:00:06 +0000

My two-year-old has changed tremendously in recent months. So much so I am honestly struggling to keep up with him. I am ok with him using words I can’t remember using in front of him. I can cope with him putting 2 and 2 together. I even think it is adorable that he has begun [...]